As an Au Pair, I lived in California for almost two years and I must say it was really hard at the end leaving the US; Just the thought of leaving behind friends and nice people I met while I was there was heartbreaking.
But at the beginning it wasn’t like that. I had no friends, I had nowhere to go, no parties to attend, no one to go to the movies with; and what I really wanted was to meet new places, somewhere I could go to dance or the best stores to go shopping.
Anyways, speaking with my polish friend also an Au Pair, we realized it’s not that easy to be part of a group of people in the US and being foreign doesn’t make it easier.
So the fastest way to actually meet someone and get out of the house was dating, so I got into Tinder after a month being there and it worked! Between September and December I got the chance to go meet SFO at a very low cost, went to two Halloween parties and got invited to two Office Xmas parties and people who really knows me, knows I never dated that much in Panama before. In 4 months being in the US I dated more than I did my whole life in Panama.
WHY? I guess I just put myself out there, I really wanted to get out of the house so dating weird random guys was my hobby.
I have to admit it was risky, but I needed to do something else than being home, so grabbing my car keys and driving 23 miles or so to meet some stranger was a routine after work.
The guys I dated could have been boyfriend material but I wasn’t looking for that AT ALL, I used to get impressed date after date as I realized they are so different from what I was used to.
Based on MY EXPERIENCE, this is what I could find out:
|Always on time
They make decisions
They love to talk about what they do for living
They ask you questions about yourself
They feel fascinated for dating a latina
They are 75% nerdy
They have great careers but it’s important for them to spend time on a hobby they like
They’re very independent
They are sensitive and thoughtful
Some of them are very honest like it or not, others tend to be fake.
For some of them is more important what you have than who you are
They hardly judge you, but some of them think they already figured you out
They’re fun and kind on a first date
They let you know they’re really trying in the first date
Some of them take tinder or Bumble seriously
If I say I’m a dancer they’ll think I’m a goddess
They are good listener
Most of them like Adventures more than parties
Some of them are very slow
They are very straightforward in sex matters
A lot of them does not have too much experience with girls because during education they are mostly separated and doing different activities.
Some of them are super shy, Some of them are dicks
Typical date is just watching movies together at the living room and eat snacks
They are also very positive people, mostly smiling and happy to help you.
|Hardly on time
They avoid making a decision and they let you do it instead
They don’t give much details of what they do for living
Hardly make smart or interesting questions
They think they’re MACHOS by nature
They are fascinated for white/ european women
They are afraid of commitment and family
They rather lie instead of telling the awful truth
Not many of them are open minded
They label you for how you look like
Any girl they meet through an app can’t be a girlfriend material
They get nervous at the first date but they’ll never admit it
If I say I’m a dancer they’ll think I’m a whore
They don’t listen
They like talking about their ex girlfriends
Most of them like parties more than adventures
They want to score in the first date
If you’re not single you are very interesting
They want to make you think sex is the least though on their minds.
Don’t get surprised if the one you’re dating with is already married, has a girlfriend or is dating other girls.
Typical date: dinner or a beach day.
They hardly talk about their feelings.
I have no preferences between them, but man I could tell the differences right away, Americans tend to be more welcoming and caring than Panamanians in my case, maybe because they found me exotic which it’s totally understandable and I took advantage of that.
It was fun and really kept me busy during the first year; dating was a great way to have a real taste of the American culture and lifestyle.
If you’re either american or panamanian don’t feel offended, this is not written in stone. I LOVE BOTH SIDES AND THE BEAUTY OF IT IS THE CULTURAL DIFFERENCES!!
Special Thanks to Aga, I couldn’t put this list together without you !!